Apparently the POTUS said that he personally thinks gay folks should be able to get married. He demurred about enforcing this legally, digging up the corpse of federalism for a riot shield, but whatever.
The point is that my fellow Christians are freaking out about it.
(Negatively. On the flip side, progressives are freaking out about it positively, which doesn’t make any sense either. This was just a “hey, whatcha think?” moment blown out of proportion for fundraising purposes, and who really thought that his previous opposition to gay marriage was anything but political gaming?)
And my fellow Christians shouldn’t freak out about it.
There are several issues here:
(1) It’s kind of a stretch to refer to same sex marriage as marriage. Folks have a point when they say the term has indicated hetero (though not necessarily monogamous) legal unions for a reeeeeal long time, usually tinged with religious significance as well.
So I get that criticism. But not when it’s paired with the contention that governments should define marriage. Because . . .
(2) There’s no reason for governments to be involved in the marriage business at all. For the religious component, there are churches and synagogues and mosques and sacred groves or whatever. For the legal component, there’s this thing called a contract. Combine the two, and what do you know? Marriage. Abraham didn’t have a government “sanctify” his marriage to Sarah. It was still a real marriage.
Sure, if gay people want to consider themselves married, Christians can look at that and say, “Nope, that’s not the real thing.” And that’s correct. It’s not. Marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church. Gay marriages, necessarily involving serious sin, are therefore a big offense to Christians. I find them offensive. I don’t like them and wish they wouldn’t happen. However . . .
(3) Christians shouldn’t use the sword of the state to enforce their preferences on their neighbors. This is a big problem. Right now, Christians are saying, “Hey, we get these benefits, and you, gay neighbor, shouldn’t have them, and I want to make it a law that you can’t! Now why do keep on saying you don’t like Christians and don’t want to come to church with me?”
(4) And gay folks: what’s so great about the government saying you’re “married?”
If the issue is a contractual one (e.g., assignment of federal health benefits to dependents), then that’s the issue. Lobby for a revision of those rules, allowing an assignment of benefits to an individual of the beneficiary’s choosing. Saying we have to have government marriage in order to get insurance is a non sequitur. And, plus, who cares what the government thinks about you or says about your relationships anyway?
If the issue is religious or legal, there are liberal churches, liberal synagogues, etc. that can service you. If the issue is contractual, hire a lawyer to draw up a contract.
Summary
Let’s just get the feds (and the states) out of the marriage business entirely.

